Signs You Might be an Older Millennial

Hello, subscribers. I have been waiting to post something since this summer. If we have been chatting, you know this summer was less than stellar for me. 

I have been thinking about what to post next. This post is one of the many stories I have been writing in my head all summer long:

I am a Millennial. I consider myself an older millennial or xennial: part of the Oregon Trail Generation if you will. I was born in 1985, smack dab in the middle of the 1980s. I grew up with an older brother. He basically controlled the TV in our household. My brother is an older millennial, so I consider myself one too.

Many would say millennials get a bad rap. We, older Millennials, are nearly 40. (I am about to be 36 and am super happy about it- for the record). Why do we get classified with the younger millennials? I say it is because generations stick together. 

When I graduated high school, our generation was called Generation Y. We were the kids of the millennium. We had the best of both worlds. Life before technology. Life before smartphones. I am sure you have seen all seen the memes about this. 

Now, we live in a world where we are glued to our phones. As a parent and as a human, this is a difficult situation for me. I talk to Google like she is my friend. My son also talks to Google, which is quite funny.

Anyways, without further ado: here is my list that I have been compiling all summer: 

Signs you might be an older Millennial:

  • New technology is not your strong suit.
  • You bought your first Chromebook and still have no idea how to start a zoom call on it. (yet, you will figure it out)
  • You are looking at your printer (which is hooked up and plugged in) that has not worked in years.
  • You remember your childhood vividly, basing years on the grade you were in/what a wonderful summer you had.
  • You love the 80s and 90s nostalgia.
  • You have a memory of riding in the back of a pickup truck.
  • You also have a memory of riding in the back of a minivan with no seats. Seatbelts seemed optional, but you knew you were supposed to wear them.
  • Nickelodeon was the best. TGIF was even better.
  • You may have graduated college during a recession.
  • You are becoming a parent or raising a child during a pandemic: pandemic toddlers are so resilient.
  • You are a believer in social justice, at least I am.
  • You know exactly where you were when you heard of the death of Princess Diana. You remember who you were with at the time. 
  • The same goes for 9/11. May those we lost live on in the memories of their loved ones. Never Forget.
  • You do not want to settle for any job. It has to be a career job.
  • You love social media: I remember seeing an actual, The Facebook at the University of Georgia. This yearbook-type publication is where they say Mark Zuckerberg got the idea for the platform while at Harvard. (If you watched the movie The Social Network, he could have stolen the idea. I guess we do not know)
  • You get confused by Instagram, wishing they taught you how to use it for business in school.
  • You did not have a hashtag at your wedding. (It wasn’t a very common thing when I married my husband in 2013.)
  • You may remember seeing rotary phones at Grandma’s house.
  • You avoid group texts. I am doing that right now, so I can have time to write this.
  • You prefer talking on the phone over texting.
  • You got your first phone at age 16 when you were able to drive on your own.
  • Nowadays, you hate listening to your voice mail.
  • You think chain letters/emails are the worst. Did you know they still exist? My friends broke the chain of a sticker club for my son once. We did not get any stickers in the mail. (but my son did get some from a friend in person)
  • You miss getting letters in the mail.
  • You still like to write things down even though it is easier to use your phone or computer.
  • You always have to look up how to spell emoji. Thanks, spellcheck.
  • Speaking of emojis, you overuse them. 🙂 ❤
  • Mom jeans are back in style, but they are not the ones you remember as a child.
  • You love skinny jeans. In middle school, you may have spent your own money on wide-leg jeans from the Limited Too. 
  • You did not fly on an airplane until you were in elementary or middle school.
  • You grew out your bangs as a child. Now you have side bangs as an adult.
  • Your friends all have grey hair. (none yet for me, luckily)
  • You have tickets for Elton John so you can say you saw him before he “retires.”
  • Music shaped your childhood, and now you share that music with your children.
  • This list could go on forever, like the song that never ends…

I am sorry if you are singing that song right now. Ha!

I would love to know more about you all: my subscribers. Are you an older millennial? What else would you add to this list?

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Lake Life

Sometimes your loved one’s traditions become your own. My husband grew up going to his Great Uncle Johnny’s lake house in Tennessee. Uncle Johnny and Aunt Mary (whom I never had the pleasure to meet) would always invite Ryan up to his lake house on the Emory River for a week in the summer over the Fourth of July. The property was near the Kingston Steam Power Plant. He started going once his grandfather, Johnny’s brother, passed away when my husband was ten years old. Uncle Johnny wanted to include Ryan in the family get-togethers and treated him like he was his grandson. Uncle Johnny never did have any kids or grand kids of his own. 

Other family members would join in the week at the lake including his distant cousin Ron (Ronny), Ronny’s parents Roger and Sis, and his brother Mike and sister-in-law Tammy. They would go for rides in Roger’s boat, water-ski, tubing, and also take spins on Ronny’s jet-ski. Often, Ryan and Uncle Johnny would just drive around and do nothing, a term they liked to call “piddling.” Ronny and Ryan would often take a late-night trip to get a slushy at Sonic, get gas for the boats, and get items from the grocery store that they wanted. Aunt Mary passed away when Ryan was in high school and Uncle Johnny later remarried to Lena. 

When my husband and I started dating in college, I was invited to go to the lake too. On the fourth of July in 2006, Ryan and I drove the four hours to Tennessee and four hours back in one day just to be there for the holiday. Ronny was the only guest there that day and we rode on his jetski and saw the boat races at the annual Smokin the Water Festival in Kingston. It was a wonderful day and got a glimpse at what Ryan was so fond of about lake life in Tennesee. 

My first trip to the lake house with Ryan in 2006.

The next year, we spent a whole weekend at the lake with Ronny. We would spend our days out on the water. Uncle Johnny and his wife Lena were so kind to us. We had so much fun tubing on the lake and riding on the jetski all weekend. Ronny was always so fun to be around. He was a kind man who was always up for a good laugh. He and Ryan grew very close over the years. A few months after our weekend visit, Ronny visited Ryan and we all went to see the Charlie Daniels band at the Freedom Concert. Ronny and Ryan talked and kept up with each other over the years, and we always meant to visit more often. Then, something very unexpected happened to the lake.

On December 22, 2008, an ash spill at Tennessee Valley Authority plant in Roane County flooded the water at Uncle Johnny’s lake house. It was the largest coal ash spill in U.S. history. His lake property was ruined with ash sludge. Ryan’s dad owned the lot across the street from Johnny’s but had not put a house on it yet. His lake lot was also deemed unfit for use due to the ash spill. To learn more about the ash spill in Swan Pond click here.

The TVA bought out about 100 landowners near Lakeview Drive on the Emory River including Uncle Johnny and Ryan’s Dad. Uncle Johnny did not relocate to lake property, rather he bought a modular home in Rockwood, Tennessee with Lena. 

Ryan’s dad looked all over for comparable lake property and ended up buying a lake lot on a different part of the river in Spring City, Tennessee. It is a small town that has one stoplight and doesn’t have a standalone McDonalds. (It’s attached to a gas station). The local grocery store is a small Piggly Wiggly and you have to drive 20 miles to reach a Wal-Mart. Spring City has grown on us. We now have a deep appreciation for the small town and what it has to offer. 

In the fall of 2011, we found out that Ronny had passed away at the age of 43. He was taken from us much too soon. Maybe if the ash spill never happened, we would have gotten to get together with Ronny at Uncle Johnny’s one last time. We were busy with our jobs and life got in the way. Ronny will always have a special place in our hearts. 

Ryan and I got married in 2013. A few years later, Uncle Johnny passed away. When our son Nathan was born in 2018, we decided to honor Johnny by naming him after Ryan’s Great Uncle. Nathan’s middle name is John after Uncle Johnny.

While I was pregnant with Nathan, Ryan’s Dad began construction on the lake house in Spring City. It was finally complete around the time Nathan was 10 months old. In April 2019, we stayed over at the lakehouse for the first weekend. The first of many weekend lake trips. 

Nathan learned how to crawl during that first lake vacation. Must have been all the soft carpet in the living room! During another weekend trip, we took Nathan to meet late Uncle Johnny’s wife Lena. She loved meeting him and he loved exploring her home. 

Every few months, we go to the lake house and make family memories. We love going there and now love sharing the love of swimming in the water with Nathan. We started a new tradition of taking porch pictures of the lake house. It was so neat to see how much Nathan grew from each visit to the lake house to the next. The last time we went to the lake house over this past Fourth of July, Nathan wanted nothing to do with the porch pictures. At age two, he is more interested in exploring than being held by mommy and daddy for a photo. He didn’t smile, but we finally got a decent shot or two on the porch. 

Last year, we went again to Smokin the Water in Kingston. They no longer had boat racing but it was still a fun festival. This year, the festival was canceled due to COVID-19. We still had fun shooting off fireworks in the cul-de-sac and watching the neighbor’s fireworks from the porch. 

We are going up to the lake house again in a week with our friends who have a boat and we will all go riding and tubing on the lake. I love making memories with my family at the lake house and in the water in Tennessee. Nathan loves going to the lake house and asks to go there almost daily. I hope he will always have a love of going to the lake. I’m excited to see what the future may bring for our family and to have him grow up visiting the lake just like his Daddy did when he was a kid.

Hold On, Let Me Check My Calendar…

BUSY-Calendar

I don’t know what it is, but this summer has been incredibly busy for me.  Perhaps even the busiest summer of my life- and I didn’t even go on a real summer vacation! I had time off, but only went on trips for the weekend, usually visiting family. It’s gotten so busy that I’ve traded in my planner notebook for Google Calendar, which has been a lifesaver. I can view it on the computer or my phone and it syncs to let me know what’s going on from anywhere. It’s gotten so bad that my husband and I have to check our calendar before we make any plans. I know a lot of people are like that, but I used to be able to keep track in my head. Not now. We try to make plans and I have to say, I don’t have a free weekend until the middle of August! Today was the only real weekend day where I didn’t have any plans. We made a nice day of it, went out to lunch, shopping and to the movies. It was really nice to just decide in the moment and go and enjoy ourselves. With our friends, we have had to make dinner plans on weeknights because the weekends are too busy. I like being busy and having things to do, but sometimes it can be overkill and burn you out.

Be-so-busy-loving-your-life-that-you-have-no-time-for-hate-regret-or-fear-from-Starling-FitnessI think our busy summer started when I was off for two weeks from work and planned activities for my husband and me to do most days. He took a couple days off work to relax and spend time with me. We went to “the beach.” OK, it was the lake beach, but it was still a good time. We ate at new restaurants and really just enjoyed ourselves. Then more and more plans were made, my husband had a few more photo jobs, and our calendar really filled up. Last weekend, we traveled to Tennessee to see my husband’s niece play in a softball tournament, and they won! It was nice to spend time with my in-laws and I discovered I actually like watching softball. I’m not really a sports fan and don’t enjoy going to baseball games, so this was surprising to me.

This upcoming weekend, we are going to visit more of my husband’s family at Lake Helen, Florida. I’m really looking forward to it. Maybe we’ll go canoeing and ride on the four-wheelers again. The next weekend I will be in Athens for a celebration for the return of Delta Phi Epsilon at UGA. That is the chapter I initiated at, so I’m really excited to see the chapter come back and visit with some of my sisters from that school who I have not seen in years.

It’s looking like things will slow down for me in the fall. I’m looking forward to my birthday, not because I turn 30, but because I love my birthday- who doesn’t? Well, some people dread turning older, but I love celebrating with family and friends. My mom will be in town for my birthday and I have a couple days off work to celebrate with her. After my birthday comes, it’s my husband and I’s two year wedding anniversary! We won’t be on a fancy vacation celebrating, but we have both taken the day off work and are going to do something fun during the day in Atlanta and have dinner at a nice restaurant.

Life gets so busy, especially when you have two jobs (and so does your husband) but I wouldn’t trade mine for the world. Here’s to living life to the fullest!

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Life After College

Life after High School and College: When Your Social Life Turns into Your Work Life

In this blog entry, I want to share a common problem most twenty something college graduates may have. For me, college and high school now seem like such a long time ago. My ten year high school reunion is creeping up on me and, a little over four years ago, I graduated from college. After college, when I joined the working world with a full time nine to five, I noticed that my social life had dwindled. Not that it went away completely, but I was going to less social engagements and work seemed to take up more of my life. The sorority events, fraternity parties, and homecomings turned into deadlines, business emails, and life spent at the computer. I suspect this happens to a lot of college graduates when they enter the work force. In college, I was in a sorority and between that, school, dating, and my part time job, I was incredibly busy. Once I changed over that tassel on my graduation cap, my social calendar somewhat declined. But, if you want to have a good balance between work life and social life, you have to plan for it.

Kennesaw Graduate

My Graduation from KSU

It’s hard to be as busy socially when you have a full time job that requires you to wake up at the crack of dawn and go to work every weekday. For me, and my current job, I work four 10-hour days. You try having dinner with friends and getting in time for a workout when you get off at 7 p.m. every day! For me, a good benefit is having three day weekends and never having to work on a Monday. This brings me to my next point—take advantage of your weekends! Having three days instead of two allows for weekend trips and makes it easier when you go on vacation. But, if you only have two days, you need to make the most of them. Unless you work from home on the weekends sometimes, these are your two days to relax, unwind, and have fun with friends and family. Get out there and have some fun!

One thing that has made my life busier is joining my sorority alumnae association. We have events several times a month, so it brings back that sense of togetherness and added social time. As the twenty somethings get to be closer to thirty, life gets busier with co-habitation, marriage and having children. But, while most of us don’t wish to go back in time and relive our college years, you still sometimes miss staying out all night partying when your alarm goes off bright and early at 6 a.m. for work. Well, back to the grind…