I often write about motherhood, because that is the season of my life right now. As a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), my days are mostly consumed with taking care of my son and keeping him occupied. About four months into my motherhood journey, I found a wonderful organization called MOMS Club. As a new mother, I was feeling extra lonely and needed a group of mom friends with kids my son’s age.
One evening, I was looking at posts from a local mom’s group on Facebook, and I saw that someone had mentioned a group called MOMS Club. I immediately went to their website, but I didn’t live in that specific zip code. I then looked up the international organization and saw that there was, in fact, a MOMS Club in my city.
I was overjoyed. “This is for me,” I thought. As I looked at the website, I found myself crying. I could tell that I needed something to help fill the void inside of me. And, maybe MOMS Club would be it. Right then, I filled out the “contact us” form through their website. To my surprise, a mom got back with me that very evening. She sounded so welcoming and helpful, giving me more information about the club and encouraged me to come to one of their events if I was still interested.
My first event was a play date at one of the mom’s houses. There was a big turnout, and I got to know several other moms and their children. Everyone was so welcoming and friendly. I signed up to join the club shortly after the event, and it was one of the best things I could do for myself and my son as a mother.
My once mostly blank calendar was now filled with fun events for moms and their children. I got to know the other moms and their kids and made some strong friendships through the club. I joined a playgroup, which met weekly at members’ homes or local parks. While at playgroup or a MOMS Club event, the moms were always willing to lend out a baby wipe or a snack if you didn’t bring enough or even to watch your child for a minute while you went to the restroom.
It was a village of moms and I had finally found them. When I had first joined the MOMS Club my son was a small baby who could not yet sit up by himself. Most of the time, I held him at the events. Now, he’s all toddler, running all around parks and other mom’s houses while I chase after him.
I’m not sure where I would be as a SAHM without MOMS Club. It has brought so many positive additions to my motherhood journey by giving me and my son friendships and something to do during the day. The club allows us both to get out of the house and socialize with our friends while enjoying kid-friendly activities and some mom-centered ones too such as book club.
I often attend a storytime at the library and a music class with my son weekly, but I prefer to attend MOMS club events because I’ll always know a familiar face and it just feels like home. Other types of MOMS club events we attend are playgroups, monthly meetings, park days, field trips, socials, lunches, community service projects, holiday parties and more.
I love the fact that I can bring my son to all of the daytime events, and we also have a mom’s night out (MNO) event each month. At MNO, I can leave him at home with my husband and enjoy some kid-free adult conversation. There are leadership opportunities through the club and we also have a yearly event the whole family can attend.
We have a Facebook group for our MOMS Club, and often a mom will post something like, “We’re going to the park this afternoon if anyone wants to join.” I have always felt welcome at any MOMS club event I’ve been to and I’ve never regretted attending one. (Even if my son was getting into everything he shouldn’t and I had to spend the whole event chasing after him!)
MOMS Club is a support system for SAHMs and it has helped me tremendously. I’m so thankful I joined this amazing group of moms. It truly has been a lifesaver for me.
MOMS Club is an international nonprofit organization providing daytime support for at-home mothers. For more information, or to find a MOMS club near you, visit https://momsclub.org/.
You have a million tasks to do. How do you accomplish each
one and not lose track? Write it down! Make a list. Keep up a calendar or an
agenda. This has always been how I stay organized.
I’ve always been a list maker. Just ask my mom. I used to
make lists for everything. I even have written a list of outfits I was going to
wear during the week. (In my defense, I was in high school.) I have even
written, “take a shower” on a list. Usually, my tasks are more substantial,
but- hey whatever works to get everything accomplished!
From Paper Planner to Google Calendar
In college, I had a paper planner and wrote everything down in it. It contained all of my assignments and my social calendar. As things got digital, I tried using Google calendar. I have been regularly putting in appointments in my Google Calendar since 2015. For a while, it was working great as my only calendar. I like how it works seamlessly from the computer to your phone.
A basic planner
Google Calendar example
Recently, my husband and I synced our calendars. He was
getting tired of checking with me to see if we had any plans or if I was busy
doing something. It works great! I am a member of several different
organizations and those also use Google Calendar. Someone in the organization
who has access to the calendar can type in an event and it will show up on
every member’s personal Google Calendar. I can see all my events from my
sorority alumnae association and my MOMS Club, but my husband can’t. We can see
only the events we personally put in there. Group events are separate.
Google calendar was working great for my calendar but not
really for my to-do list. I knew I needed to make a change, which brought me to
the next step in my path for getting organized.
The Bullet Journal
I am such a list maker. I was tired of having a million post-it notes everywhere, especially at work. I needed a way to keep organized that I could write down. There’s something about writing things down that keeps you more committed to the task. I knew I wanted a paper planner again. So, I did a lot of research. I looked at the Happy Planner and many other types of manual agendas, but ultimately I settled on the Bullet Journal. I no longer use a bullet journal, but I had fun with it when I did.
Two years ago, I read an article in a magazine that I used to work for. It was about how the author used her Bullet Journal and had a couple pictures of some of her spreads. It shared the website BulletJournal.com and I went to the website and checked it out.
According to BulletJournal.com, “Bullet Journal (or BuJo for
short) was created by Ryder Carroll, a digital product designer and author
living in Brooklyn, NY. Diagnosed with learning disabilities early in life, he
was forced to figure out alternate ways to be focused and productive. Through
years of trial and error, he developed a methodology that went far beyond
simple organization.”
A BuJo motto is “The Analog Method for the Digital Age.” It
is a system for taking notes, keeping track of events and getting organized. I
won’t get into the basics of how Ryder suggests you go about doing that, but
you can find out more about it on his website.
What I liked about the BuJo is the ability to personalize it and make it your own. One thing I especially loved is the variety and endless possibilities of the collections. Collections are ways to organized related information. The basic collections in a BuJo are The Index, Future Log, Monthly Log, and the Daily Log. Ryder explains these in detail on his website. What I enjoyed creating was collections about anything and everything that was helpful to me. I made collections called: Books to Read, Weight Tracker, TV/ Movies & Streaming, Medical Appointment Log, Holiday Gift List/Ideas, etc. It could really be anything you wanted.
There were also ways to incorporate habit trackers into your
BuJo, which really keep you accountable for making better choices. You could
perhaps create a collection for habit tracking or you could add it to a regular
logging page. I kept the basic core collections of the BuJo, but instead of
doing a daily log, I kept a weekly log and had space for each day. I made
creative spreads using a ruler, nice colorful pens, stickers, stencils, colored
pencils and washi tape. It became a creative form of expression for me as well
as a way to keep organized. It really became addicting and I found myself
writing in it more and more. As time went on and the busier I became at work, I
found that I didn’t have all the time I wanted to devote to my BuJo and would
have to spend evenings and weekends working on my spreads. This is something I
wasn’t willing to do long-term.
BuJo Supplies when I first started out
Supplies I bought: Ruler The Official Bullet Journal Notebook Washi Tape (really just fancy paper tape used for decoration. I have tons) Colored pens (I found that the kind by Micron are my favorite) Stickers (Lots and lots of stickers) Stencils (For drawing shapes when you can’t really draw) Colored pencils Pretty Post-it notes Dual Brush pens (Hardly ever used these, sadly) Probably even more things that I am forgetting
When creating a BuJo, all you need is a notebook and a pen to start. But, I went all out and bought the items mentioned above. At the time, I thought I really needed EVERYTHING! Now, it’s just sitting in a bag somewhere in my house…
Collection called: TV, Movies and StreamingWeekly/Daily Log exampleMonthly Log Example
One thing about Bullet Journaling that most newbies don’t think about is the community of BuJo enthusiasts that are out there. Between Facebook groups and blogs, you can get so many suggestions, ideas, inspiration and help with Bullet Journaling. I joined a group on Facebook called Bullet Journal Beginners and it was very helpful. There is also a really popular one called Bullet Journal Junkies. Many others make blogs and send out monthly emails about Bullet Journaling including Ryder himself. It is all very helpful and informative.
I was very happy with it for a long time, but I liked to do
it very artistically and creatively, which got too time-consuming. It got to be
too much and I later stopped my BuJo. Then I became very disorganized and was
back to square one. I thought, there has to be a better way. I considered
someone pre-making my BuJo and then filling it in. But, I didn’t want to pay
anyone and it didn’t seem logical. The creator of the Bullet Journal wanted
everything to be simple. He created it so that it could be kept up with consistently
without much effort. Then, people who adopted his planner/journal method came
up with all these other more creative collections and ways to decorate the
pages. It strews from the origin of the Bullet Journal itself. Like I mentioned
before, I prefer the more artistic method to making a BuJo, but I couldn’t keep
up with it. So, I began researching again.
Passion Planner
That’s when I found the Passion Planner. Now, I considered other options before purchasing a Passion Planner, such as the Scribbles that Matter Bullet Planner, an Erin Condren LifePlanner, the Happy Planner or a Commit30. But, I think what really hooked me was that they were having a flash sale and I just happened to be on the website at the right time. I spent a fraction of what a Passion Planner costs and tried something new. I was so excited for my Passion Planner to come in the mail. It was already April when I got my Passion Planner, so I started from the beginning of that month and left the beginning of my journal blank (which started in January).
My Passion Planners
Let’s take a moment to talk about the company itself and its founder, Angelia Trinidad.
According to Passionplanner.com, “We’ve all been there: uncertain about what to do in life and unsure about the next step. When Angelia Trinidad faced this anxiety after graduating from college in 2012, she decided to do something about it. She designed the Passion Planner, a personal organizer to help you simplify your life and focus on what really matters.
Since then, Passion Planner has grown into a worldwide
community of dreamers, planners, and achievers. We’re dedicated to helping
everyone follow their passions. As a Get One, Give One company, every planner
purchased lets us give one to someone in need. We partner with nonprofit
organizations to support causes from education to preserving our planet.”
Weekly Spread Example
There are different components of a Passion Planner. Everything is laid out on the page for you so all you have to do is fill in. There are also blank pages in the back to use for whatever you like. It’s more than a planner; it’s also a goal setting guide, appointment calendar, sketchbook, gratitude log, journal, and a sketchbook. It has personal and work to-do list outlines and weekly and daily focus. You may use it however you wish and be as creative or as minimalist as you like.
When I first started my passion planner, I was working full-time. I used my planner to plan personal and work projects and set goals. I also make to-do lists and frequently used my “space of infinite possibility” found on each weekly spread and other areas throughout the planner. I used to decorate my Passion Planner with stickers I bought from my BuJo days. You can be creative and add stickers and “flair” but you can also be simple and just fill out the pages. Now that I’m a Stay-at-home-mom, I use my Passion Planner much differently. It helps me keep up with my schedule. I’m in a MOMS Club, so we have different events throughout the week as well as my other appointments and plans going on. I also use it to keep track of my chores around the house, my to-do list and occasionally my shopping list. There is a “Good things that Happened this week” space in each weekly spread and I use that to record my son’s milestones. It is really helpful to do this each week so I can write it in my son’s baby book each month. I’m sure I will love looking back on this part of my planner in the future.
At the beginning of each Passion Planner, there is a Passion Roadmap for goal setting. You list goals and due dates for completion in 3 months, One Year, 3 years and for your lifetime. It is really helpful to keep you on track. Each month there is also a space for a mind map of tasks to do that month. I did the one at the beginning of the book last year, but not this year. It is something I keep meaning to do. There is also an end of the month reflection for each month of the year in the Passion Planner. I’ve never filled out the end of the month reflection, but I would imagine it would be helpful.
How Passion Planner WorksA Blank Passion Roadmap
There are blank pages in the back of the planner that you can make into anything you want. I went back to my BuJo days and made a collection type page for Holiday Gifts to buy last holiday season. It really helped that my gift ideas were all in one place.
A lot of people use the Passion Planner and it is very beneficial. They have an academic version and an undated as well that come in a variety of sizes and colors. You can check out their website for their latest planners.
That pretty much sums up how I have and currently use productivity tools in everyday life to keep organized. I hope it has helped you learn more about a few different products that will help you stay on task and be productive. What types of things do you use to manage your time and achieve your goals?
I don’t know what it is, but this summer has been incredibly busy for me. Perhaps even the busiest summer of my life- and I didn’t even go on a real summer vacation! I had time off, but only went on trips for the weekend, usually visiting family. It’s gotten so busy that I’ve traded in my planner notebook for Google Calendar, which has been a lifesaver. I can view it on the computer or my phone and it syncs to let me know what’s going on from anywhere. It’s gotten so bad that my husband and I have to check our calendar before we make any plans. I know a lot of people are like that, but I used to be able to keep track in my head. Not now. We try to make plans and I have to say, I don’t have a free weekend until the middle of August! Today was the only real weekend day where I didn’t have any plans. We made a nice day of it, went out to lunch, shopping and to the movies. It was really nice to just decide in the moment and go and enjoy ourselves. With our friends, we have had to make dinner plans on weeknights because the weekends are too busy. I like being busy and having things to do, but sometimes it can be overkill and burn you out.
I think our busy summer started when I was off for two weeks from work and planned activities for my husband and me to do most days. He took a couple days off work to relax and spend time with me. We went to “the beach.” OK, it was the lake beach, but it was still a good time. We ate at new restaurants and really just enjoyed ourselves. Then more and more plans were made, my husband had a few more photo jobs, and our calendar really filled up. Last weekend, we traveled to Tennessee to see my husband’s niece play in a softball tournament, and they won! It was nice to spend time with my in-laws and I discovered I actually like watching softball. I’m not really a sports fan and don’t enjoy going to baseball games, so this was surprising to me.
This upcoming weekend, we are going to visit more of my husband’s family at Lake Helen, Florida. I’m really looking forward to it. Maybe we’ll go canoeing and ride on the four-wheelers again. The next weekend I will be in Athens for a celebration for the return of Delta Phi Epsilon at UGA. That is the chapter I initiated at, so I’m really excited to see the chapter come back and visit with some of my sisters from that school who I have not seen in years.
It’s looking like things will slow down for me in the fall. I’m looking forward to my birthday, not because I turn 30, but because I love my birthday- who doesn’t? Well, some people dread turning older, but I love celebrating with family and friends. My mom will be in town for my birthday and I have a couple days off work to celebrate with her. After my birthday comes, it’s my husband and I’s two year wedding anniversary! We won’t be on a fancy vacation celebrating, but we have both taken the day off work and are going to do something fun during the day in Atlanta and have dinner at a nice restaurant.
Life gets so busy, especially when you have two jobs (and so does your husband) but I wouldn’t trade mine for the world. Here’s to living life to the fullest!