The Zlotnik Family History

This post has been a long time coming. I have wanted to write about my family history on both sides for years now. I interviewed several of my aunts and uncles, but I didn’t write anything or complete all of the interviews. When I was in high school, I interviewed my grandma (on my mother’s side) about her life and how her family came to America. I wrote a story about it, gave it to her as a gift, and it hung on her wall until we sold her house after she passed away five years ago. I knew her story, but I never really knew my dad’s parents’ story. I had heard bits and pieces over the years, but I wanted to document it and find out all I could before one day it was too late. I found out more information than I thought I would, with old documents I couldn’t believe I could find. Yet, there are still many missing pieces of the story we will never know because my grandparents never shared them before they passed. Without further ado, the Zlotnik Family History:  

I work at a Jewish museum in the Holocaust Education Center. I work with survivors of the Holocaust who share their stories with school groups and adults. Holocaust education is so important, especially now with the rise of antisemitism.

I am also a descendant of Holocaust survivors, which makes my work even more meaningful. My grandparents on my dad’s side were born in Poland. They had horrible, traumatizing experiences during WWII. I’m writing this today to share what I know of their lives so that their memory stays alive for my son, my nieces, and future generations of my family. 

Growing up, I learned about the holocaust in school and from reading books like Number the Stars and The Diary of Anne Frank. When I was nine years old, my family traveled to Washington, D.C., and we visited the National Holocaust Museum. That was the first time I saw pictures of the atrocities that occurred in the concentration camps against the Jewish people and other minorities. It was eye-opening and hard to digest. I remember looking at the giant piles of shoes the Nazis collected from the people in the camps and feeling so sad and horrified. Luckily, my grandparents were able to leave Poland and escape death camps.

I’ve always wanted to write about my family’s history, especially on my Dad’s side. Working at the Jewish museum and hearing Holocaust survivors’ firsthand stories of what they went through makes me want to share even more.

Unfortunately, my grandparents didn’t share much about their time during WWII. We don’t know much about what they went through. It was too hard and too painful for them to talk about. But, here’s what I do know: 

My grandparents, Regina and Nathan Zlotnik.

My Grandma Regina Zlotnik was born in Dabrowa, Poland, in 1917. She was born Rywa and later changed her first name to Regina. Her maiden name was Czerner. Grandma lived in a shtetl and lived a peasant-style life. She worked as a seamstress in Poland. My grandma was quite a character! She loved being the center of attention. Grandma was very nice to me. She loved my blonde hair when I was little. She only had a fourth-grade education, yet she managed to speak numerous languages during her lifetime. Unfortunately, her communication skills never translated well when it came to spelling. Sometimes we would get funny cards and notes from her, where she signed her name: Love, Mom, and “Dead.”

When she was in her 90s, she suffered from dementia. She then told my Dad about her family in a photograph on the wall in her house. She shared with him which family members had died in the Holocaust, and we have it on video. This is about the time we found out she was in a work camp in Siberia. She had never shared this until then. The memories were too painful.

Grandma Regina, her younger brother Arye Czerner, and her cousin Saul Kozak were the only survivors of their family. Saul was in 5-6 different work camps. After the war, Saul married his wife Rachel. Arye, my Great Uncle, married his wife Hanka. After coming to America, their last name changed to Cherner, and they had several children together. 

Grandma Regina (top center), Arye (on her left), and their family.

My Grandpa Nathan Zlotnik (or as we called him, Natie) was born in Lodz, Poland, in 1906. He was born Natan and later changed his name to Nathan. He worked as a shoemaker in Poland. He lost his whole family in the Holocaust. We do not know any more details about it. He would never talk about his family, whom he lost (his wife and two kids). He and his brother Leon were the only survivors in the Zlotnik family. Leon moved to Sweden after the war, and his family still lives in Sweden today. Leon’s wife was named Gucia. My cousin visited Leon’s children in Sweden while she was studying abroad, and they celebrated Passover together. She took this picture of a plaque with our ancestors’ names who perished in the Holocaust. It is displayed at their synagogue in Sweden. 

My grandparents met at a displaced persons (DP) camp after WWII. The United Nations Relief and Rehabilitation Administration D. P. Camp, CAS 314, in Admont, Austria, near Vienna. The DP camp housed about 2000 Jews. They arrived in 1945 and stayed for about two years. While researching Holocaust archives, I found these documentation cards for my Grandparents from their time in the DP Camp.

Grandma Regina shared the story of how my grandparents met: Grandpa Natie looked at Regina from across the room. He told her, “You are so gorgeous; we are going to get married. You are going to have my children.” They married and had a baby boy. My uncle was conceived in 1946 and born in 1947 in the DP camp. They moved to Sweden in 1948, where my Grandpa’s brother, Leon, lived and had another son. Then the four of them moved to America in 1953. They arrived in New York and stayed there for about six weeks, living with a sponsor family who took them in temporarily. Jews and survivors from Europe were distributed throughout the United States. The Zlotniks were assigned to live in Indianapolis, Indiana. They moved to Indiana in 1953, where they had my Dad in 1954. In Indianapolis, my grandparents both worked at the same meat-packing factory.

My grandparents didn’t tell my uncles that my grandma was pregnant with my Dad. They didn’t really know they were going to have a little brother. When it came time for my grandmother to go into labor, they sent my uncles to the movies. When they came home, my dad was born. It was a big surprise to them. My dad is 7 years younger than his oldest brother.

Grandma’s brother, Arye Cherner, and his family were sent to St. Louis. In 1957, the Cherners moved to Boyle Heights, California, a neighborhood in Los Angeles, and the Zlotniks followed. By 1960, both families had moved to the Fairfax Avenue area of West Los Angeles. 

After my grandparents moved to Los Angeles, they both got jobs in the garment industry. Nathan worked at a weaving place making clothes on Towne Avenue, in the Skid Row area of LA. Regina worked at a sewing company as a seamstress and made medical uniforms for a company called Barco. They were both hard workers and saved enough money to buy a house and eventually their own business.  

My grandparents owned a Hamburger restaurant that they called “the business.” All my life, I knew it as “the business” and only recently learned its name: John’s Drive-In. My Grandparents, my dad, and my Uncles all worked there. It looked like an old McDonald’s with the golden arches. It was purchased from another person who was already running the restaurant on commercial long-term leased property. Nathan and Regina ran the restaurant for about 7 years from 1963 to 1970.  When the lease was up, the land owner decided to sell the property.  My grandparents could not afford the higher costs and lost the restaurant. Eventually it was torn down, and it is now a gas station. By 1971, Nathan turned 65 and decided to retire.

Today, one of my uncles still lives in California. My other uncle lives in Texas. My parents, brother, and I moved to Georgia (Marietta) in 1991. I was 5 1/2 years old. We still live in Metro Atlanta today. 

Living across the country, we didn’t see my grandparents very much. We would visit during the summer, and my grandparents traveled to Atlanta for my brother’s Bar Mitzvah in 1996. I don’t remember much about Grandpa Natie, but he would always sit in his green massaging recliner chair in the living room. He died on April 3, 1997, during our spring break. He lived until age 90. We travelled back to California for his funeral. It was the first funeral I had ever attended. I was 11 years old. I wanted to share nice memories of Grandpa Natie, so I wrote a poem about him and put it in his casket.

The home my Dad’s family lived in was a small 2-bedroom, 1 bathroom house they bought in 1960. My dad and brothers all had to share a room. The house had a galley kitchen, a nice outdoor patio with orange and lemon trees, and a small backyard with a detached garage. They had a lot of trinkets (tchotchkes) in their house and in the dining room. My grandparents built a studio apartment or extension of their house in the 1980s. Grandma had various tenants for many years and made money that way.

I remember that my grandparents always had super old Lifesavers and other “old people” expired candy in their living room. They always served us corned beef sandwiches and had shortbread Dutch cookies in a blue metal tin.

We celebrated my grandma’s 100th birthday in California when my oldest niece was a baby. 100 is quite a milestone birthday! Grandma Regina loved to exercise even at age 101. My cousin submitted a picture of my grandma exercising on her 101st birthday, and it went viral on Reddit. Several publications have published the story in the links below.

https://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/101-year-old-who-survived-holocaust-and-cancer-celebrates-birthday-with-serious-workout

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/woman-celebrated-101st-birthday-workout-211849512.html

When my son Nathan was 6 months old, he met Grandma while we visited California. We took a 4-generation photo with me, Grandma, baby Nathan, and my Dad. My husband and I named our son Nathan after Grandpa Natie. We told her this, and she pointed up to the sky like she understood that we named our son after him in Heaven. She could not communicate well at the end of her life, so this gesture was extra special. She lived in the Jewish Home for the Aging, where she spent the last three years of her life.  She lived to be 103. She died in February 2020, right before COVID hit. Thankfully, my family was able to gather for her funeral. When she died, I wrote her a meaningful letter and put it in her casket.

Four Generations: Grandma, me, my Dad and my son Nathan. He is named after my Grandfather.

In third grade, I had an assignment in religious school. I don’t remember exactly what I was supposed to write about, but after that assignment, I had an epiphany. If the Holocaust had never happened, I wouldn’t exist. My grandparents would never have met, and my Dad, Uncles, Cousin, Brother, and I, and our children would have never been born. This was mind-boggling to me. Through the horrors of the Holocaust, I saw a silver lining. May their memories be a blessing.

In 2016, my husband and I went on a group tour to Israel. During our trip, we visited the Holocaust museum Yad Vashem. We looked through all of the exhibits, and I got very emotional when we learned about the DP camps. All I could think about was my Grandparents and what they had experienced before they arrived at theirs. I am thankful I was able to visit Yad Vashem and learn more about the Holocaust. Little did I know that I would learn even more and work with survivors one day.

Hitler did not succeed. I’m proof of that. I urge you to learn more about the Holocaust. Not only what happened, but how it could have happened in the first place. Think about what we can learn from it. Never forget. Never again.

Reflecting on 40 Years

This is the year I turn 40. EEK! I’ll be over the hill. My birthday is not until September, but I already feel it coming because my husband and some friends have turned 40 or will soon. I am not looking forward to turning 40–it seems so old–four decades of life. I am sure once it gets closer to my birthday, I will be looking forward to it, but it seems like something I don’t want to celebrate right now. 

I’m thankful for my life and my family. They are what keeps me going. I am fortunate to have such great people and caring friends in my corner. Life, however, does not come without struggles. These past few years have been tough for me, health-wise. As I shared in a previous post, my mental health has been challenging for me. I live life day by day. There are ups and downs, but I’m grateful to have a happy life. I can’t be happy all the time, of course, but there are more good days than bad.

I’ve been told that when you hit 40, your body starts “falling apart.” Many people experience health problems, aches, and pains not present in their 20s and early 30s. I know for me, I’ve struggled with pain for the last ten years. Sometimes it feels like my body is failing me. But I think about how it could be much worse and I’m not in terrible, excruciating pain all the time. I recently saw a meme about how when you get older and something hurts, that’s how it is now- forever. It was a joke, but it’s partially true. 

I am a mom to a great kid! He is so sweet, smart, and caring. My friendly, talkative, energetic little boy. (Who at 6.5 is not so little anymore…) I quit my job after my son was born to be a stay-at-home mom. I didn’t plan on it, but I am glad I spent so much time with my little one. Now that he’s in elementary school, I am at a crossroads. What do I do with my time to myself? What do I do that excites me, fulfills me, and gives me more purpose to pursue my dreams? See my related post, “The Kids Are in School, Now What?” I want a job, but I like my freedom and the time to get things done. I have always wished to have not just a job but a respected career. I’ve never been in a high-level position before. I thought that by 40, I would be in a different place in my career and have it all figured out. One day I’ll get there.

If I get a job, I still want to pick my son up from the bus and take him to activities, play with him, and help him with his homework after school. A part-time job would be ideal.  Honestly, I’m a little scared to put myself back out there. I haven’t worked in 6 years. Would employers consider me because of the large gap? What kinds of jobs am I qualified for? I have a degree in Communication, but it seems that in every job posting, I’m overqualified or don’t have enough experience. What do I want to do with the rest of my life? What do I want to be when I “grow up”? More like growing old… Time will tell. Whatever happens, it is meant to be. 

Forty years of life experience. Forty is not considered as old now as it used to be. I’m happy I’m here and that I have a blessed life. Five years from now I wonder what life will look like for me.

Happy 40th Birthday to my fellow 1985 babies! And here’s to the next 40 and beyond!

What Love Means to Me

“Once in a while, right in the middle of everyday life, Love gives us a fairy tale.”

Recently, I was looking through old boxes from my parent’s house and I came across my middle school and high school poetry book. So, I thought I’d share this short piece I wrote on what it means to be in love. It was written in 2001, before I ever had experienced true love for myself. Now, years later, I am very much in love and my writing from my youth has come true.

What is True Love?

True love is when you will do anything for another person no matter the consequences.

True love is the best feeling in the world.

True love is when you mean the world to someone and they mean the world to you.

True love can conquer all obstacles.

True love becomes better and better as the relationship progresses.

True love is when you want to spend every waking moment with someone.

True love lasts when the lust of a relationship fades.

True love is when every moment spent with that special someone is too short and every moment spent without them is too long.

True love is everything. It can survive through any amount of distance and the worst hardships.

True love makes you stronger. It is unconditional and everlasting.

True love is putting yourself in danger so that the one you love will never feel one ounce of pain.

True love is knowing what someone is thinking or exactly how someone feels without saying a word.

True love is waiting your whole life for that special someone.

True love is real.

True love is utter happiness.

True love is sharing great experiences.

True love is about making sacrifices for that person.

True love is dying for someone because you can’t stand living without them.

True love lasts for eternity.

True love is appreciating the little things.

True love is romantic. It is about being amazed by that special someone.

True love is opening your soul and your deepest secrets.

True love is being as close to someone as you can possibly be.

True love feels like the first time, every time.

True love is wonderful and amazing.

By April Zlotnik

February 9, 2001