Milestone Memories

Before my son was born, I bought him a baby book. I didn’t think much of it other than I liked it because it was Woodland themed like his nursery. I knew that my mom had baby books for my brother and me, and I liked the idea of keeping track of my baby’s milestones. It is something I can look back on for years to come and even he will read it one day.

The baby book I bought for my son.

While my son was in the NICU, I started filling out the pages. Everything from my baby shower, news from the day he was born, all about his family and his first days. The book even had a page to record memories of a ceremony, such as his bris.

Every month my husband and I would sit down and fill out the page of what baby could do, what baby likes, etc. Well some months, we had to do two pages at a time because we had waited too long. It got to be somewhat of a chore to record the page each month, especially because it was always the same questions. A lot of times nothing had changed in a certain area and I’d just write, “Same as last month.”

A sample of one of the memory book pages.

Also, his monthly pictures got to be a chore as well. From picking out the outfit to the stress of trying to take the perfect picture, but I’m glad I have them. I took them on the exact monthly birthday each time. When he got older, a new challenge arose of trying to get him to sit still for a photo. Now, I’m lucky if the picture isn’t blurry because my son never stops moving and is always on the go.

After each doctor’s appointment, I would record his weight, his height, and his immunizations in his baby book. There is also a page to record his teeth coming in and pages with various other milestones. The book goes up to age five, with the focus on the baby’s first year. I like the idea of recording memories of my child because we so easily forget the little things. There are plenty of spaces to add photos to the baby book and I was very diligent on putting photos in for his first seven months. After that, life got busy and I stopping getting photos printed and adding them to his baby book. I’ll have to update the book with recent photos soon.

Somewhere along the way, after my son was born I wanted to his record milestones as they happened. When he was about five months old, I began to record them in my Passion Planner. There is a space called “good things that happened” in each weekly spread. I shifted the focus of that from myself to my son. It was a good way to remember things to record in the baby book and to have another record of it. Later on, I started recording them on a list app on my phone and then would transfer the milestone later to my planner and then to the baby book. It can seem like an inefficient system, but it worked for me in my daily life. If I thought of something, I could just type it on my phone instead of finding the planner or the baby book. I used to delete the list on my phone once I recorded it elsewhere, but now I like to keep an ongoing list because it tells you the exact day I recorded it. That’s how I know my son started walking on September 25, 2019! I record the simplest things to the biggest, such as when he found his feet to new words he learned. Some of his achievements that I recorded are not what you would call a traditional milestone, but it is something I want to remember. My son was born premature, so he hit his milestones a little later than most children, but every child is different and does things at different times.

Having lists in different places can be confusing. Because I want to have everything in one place, I decided to make a list of each month and each year and everything he did that month that I felt the need to record. I started this list using all three sources, and so far have only recorded the month of January 2019. But, I’ll finish it eventually and one day I will be so glad I did. Probably when he gets curious about the baby book or when he has children someday and wants to know what he did and when to compare.

When I have another child one day, I probably won’t be this disciplined with keeping track of milestones. With the challenges of taking care of two children, I probably will barely use the next child’s baby book. That is how it turned out for my mom. She spent so much time making my brother’s baby book, cutting out shapes out of wrapping paper and gluing them in because stickers and scrapbooking weren’t as common. Now there are so many memory-making options out there and even online photo books and digital scrapbooking.

When it got time for my baby book, my mom filled out the beginning but didn’t finish it. I don’t blame her; she was keeping up with two children. There is a list in the back of the baby book of my milestones that were never transferred. My mom kept my baby bracelet from the hospital and my first lock of hair. I’m so glad the memories are recorded and that’s probably where I got the idea to keep up with my son’s baby book.  I have always loved scrapbooking and plan to make a scrapbook of my son one day. I do the traditional scrapbooking with paper and stickers. I’m still working on scrapbooking my honeymoon from six years ago, but you know I’ve made some progress.

I hope one day, my son and even my grandchildren will appreciate the effort I took to preserve these milestone memories. Are you recording memories of your children? It’s never too late to start!

A page from my son’s baby book.

You Might be a Mom If…

I got the idea for this blog post while rushing to get ready during my son’s morning nap. After all, you never know how long a child will nap for. I started thinking about how I’ve changed as a mom and things I do now that I never did prior to having my son. Some of these things are funny, some are serious, but I came up with this list in hopes that other moms could relate to it. And, also for a good laugh! Some of these facts relate to all moms, just stay-at-home-moms, all parents, moms with young babies and some maybe just to me. Here it goes…

You might be a mom if….

  • You’re a pro at doing things one-handed because you’re carrying a baby in the other.
  • You make up songs about your baby, mundane tasks, really anything at all because your baby loves it when you sing.
  • You go to the store with no makeup and unwashed hair, and you’re OK with that.
  • You need a support group of other moms going through the same thing as you.
  • You race to get everything done during your child’s nap
  • You think you can’t possibly have any more baby gear or toys and then you buy the next thing your child “needs.”
  • You always have spit up or baby food on your clothes, and you stopped caring about it.
  • You are always doing laundry. Always!
  • There are usually always dirty dishes by your sink.
  • You try many different brands of diapers and wipes, and you will find the ones that you like the best.
  • You didn’t know you could love this way.
  • You can’t wait for them to reach the next milestone (rolling over, crawling, walking, etc.) and then when they do you are like oh great! Now you have to chase after them!
  • Your schedule revolves around your child’s naps.
  • You would rather hang out with other moms versus friends without children, because they know what you are going through.
  • You have your good days and bad, but even the bad days still manage to have good aspects of them.
  • You never knew how much you needed your friends until now. Sadly, some of those friendships will fall apart post-kids.
  • You can’t wait to leave your house, whether it is to go to the grocery store, the park or somewhere that’s actually exciting.
  • You worry about money more than pre-kids and, if you do splurge, it’s usually on something for your children.
  • You know all the story times within a 20-minute radius, the best parks in the area and all the fun things to do with your child that is age-appropriate.
  • You are in at least five Moms groups on social media. In fact, your social media is mostly about parenthood these days.
  • You rarely get a night away, but if you do get a sitter, you are going to enjoy every minute of it (while spending a good chunk of your time talking about your children).
  • You know all the kid consignment stores in the area, the best seasonal consignment sales and all the stores with the best deals for baby and kids’ clothes, toys and gear.
  • Your house will never be clean. There will be toys and baby gear everywhere.
  • You never thought you could have so many conversations about baby poop.
  • You will find the best way to get rid of diaper rash that works for your child.
  • Your body will probably never be the same, but that’s OK. You made a human!
  • Vacations and weekends are not really breaks or time to get away anymore, but you still can’t wait for them to get here!
  • You get asked rude questions on your parenting judgment pretty often.
  • You’ll learn not to care if you get a bodily fluid on you. Little boys sure like to pee on you!
  • Your pregnancy brain turns into mom brain.
  • You figure out what works for your child, then something changes and you have to start all over again.
  • You cry over the littlest things. And sometimes the big things. Like on your child’s first birthday, because your little baby isn’t a baby anymore.
  • Your kid does something weird and you think, “I hope that doesn’t stick!”
  • You sometimes wish that your newborn baby didn’t fall asleep on you. And, when they get older you wish they would still fall asleep on you because you realized that you took those sweet baby cuddles for granted. (Cherish them now because they will go away. Babies don’t keep.)
  • You wouldn’t trade motherhood for the world. It may be hard, but it is sure worth it!

What else about motherhood would you add to this list? Share with me in the comments section!