I got the idea for this blog post while rushing to get ready
during my son’s morning nap. After all, you never know how long a child will
nap for. I started thinking about how I’ve changed as a mom and things I do now
that I never did prior to having my son. Some of these things are funny, some
are serious, but I came up with this list in hopes that other moms could relate
to it. And, also for a good laugh! Some of these facts relate to all moms, just
stay-at-home-moms, all parents, moms with young babies and some maybe just to
me. Here it goes…
You might be a mom if….
You’re a pro at doing things one-handed because
you’re carrying a baby in the other.
You make up songs about your baby, mundane
tasks, really anything at all because your baby loves it when you sing.
You go to the store with no makeup and unwashed
hair, and you’re OK with that.
You need a support group of other moms going
through the same thing as you.
You race to get everything done during your
child’s nap
You think you can’t possibly have any more baby
gear or toys and then you buy the next thing your child “needs.”
You always have spit up or baby food on your
clothes, and you stopped caring about it.
You are always doing laundry. Always!
There are usually always dirty dishes by your
sink.
You try many different brands of diapers and
wipes, and you will find the ones that you like the best.
You didn’t know you could love this way.
You can’t wait for them to reach the next
milestone (rolling over, crawling, walking, etc.) and then when they do you are
like oh great! Now you have to chase after them!
Your schedule revolves around your child’s naps.
You would rather hang out with other moms versus
friends without children, because they know what you are going through.
You have your good days and bad, but even the
bad days still manage to have good aspects of them.
You never knew how much you needed your friends until
now. Sadly, some of those friendships will fall apart post-kids.
You can’t wait to leave your house, whether it
is to go to the grocery store, the park or somewhere that’s actually exciting.
You worry about money more than pre-kids and, if
you do splurge, it’s usually on something for your children.
You know all the story times within a 20-minute
radius, the best parks in the area and all the fun things to do with your child
that is age-appropriate.
You are in at least five Moms groups on social
media. In fact, your social media is mostly about parenthood these days.
You rarely get a night away, but if you do get a
sitter, you are going to enjoy every minute of it (while spending a good chunk
of your time talking about your children).
You know all the kid consignment stores in the
area, the best seasonal consignment sales and all the stores with the best
deals for baby and kids’ clothes, toys and gear.
Your house will never be clean. There will be
toys and baby gear everywhere.
You never thought you could have so many
conversations about baby poop.
You will find the best way to get rid of diaper
rash that works for your child.
Your body will probably never be the same, but
that’s OK. You made a human!
Vacations and weekends are not really breaks or
time to get away anymore, but you still can’t wait for them to get here!
You get asked rude questions on your parenting
judgment pretty often.
You’ll learn not to care if you get a bodily
fluid on you. Little boys sure like to pee on you!
Your pregnancy brain turns into mom brain.
You figure out what works for your child, then
something changes and you have to start all over again.
You cry over the littlest things. And sometimes
the big things. Like on your child’s first birthday, because your little baby
isn’t a baby anymore.
Your kid does something weird and you think, “I
hope that doesn’t stick!”
You sometimes wish that your newborn baby didn’t
fall asleep on you. And, when they get older you wish they would still fall
asleep on you because you realized that you took those sweet baby cuddles for
granted. (Cherish them now because they will go away. Babies don’t keep.)
You wouldn’t trade motherhood for the world. It
may be hard, but it is sure worth it!
What else about motherhood would you add to this list? Share with me in the comments section!
You have a million tasks to do. How do you accomplish each
one and not lose track? Write it down! Make a list. Keep up a calendar or an
agenda. This has always been how I stay organized.
I’ve always been a list maker. Just ask my mom. I used to
make lists for everything. I even have written a list of outfits I was going to
wear during the week. (In my defense, I was in high school.) I have even
written, “take a shower” on a list. Usually, my tasks are more substantial,
but- hey whatever works to get everything accomplished!
From Paper Planner to Google Calendar
In college, I had a paper planner and wrote everything down in it. It contained all of my assignments and my social calendar. As things got digital, I tried using Google calendar. I have been regularly putting in appointments in my Google Calendar since 2015. For a while, it was working great as my only calendar. I like how it works seamlessly from the computer to your phone.
A basic planner
Google Calendar example
Recently, my husband and I synced our calendars. He was
getting tired of checking with me to see if we had any plans or if I was busy
doing something. It works great! I am a member of several different
organizations and those also use Google Calendar. Someone in the organization
who has access to the calendar can type in an event and it will show up on
every member’s personal Google Calendar. I can see all my events from my
sorority alumnae association and my MOMS Club, but my husband can’t. We can see
only the events we personally put in there. Group events are separate.
Google calendar was working great for my calendar but not
really for my to-do list. I knew I needed to make a change, which brought me to
the next step in my path for getting organized.
The Bullet Journal
I am such a list maker. I was tired of having a million post-it notes everywhere, especially at work. I needed a way to keep organized that I could write down. There’s something about writing things down that keeps you more committed to the task. I knew I wanted a paper planner again. So, I did a lot of research. I looked at the Happy Planner and many other types of manual agendas, but ultimately I settled on the Bullet Journal. I no longer use a bullet journal, but I had fun with it when I did.
Two years ago, I read an article in a magazine that I used to work for. It was about how the author used her Bullet Journal and had a couple pictures of some of her spreads. It shared the website BulletJournal.com and I went to the website and checked it out.
According to BulletJournal.com, “Bullet Journal (or BuJo for
short) was created by Ryder Carroll, a digital product designer and author
living in Brooklyn, NY. Diagnosed with learning disabilities early in life, he
was forced to figure out alternate ways to be focused and productive. Through
years of trial and error, he developed a methodology that went far beyond
simple organization.”
A BuJo motto is “The Analog Method for the Digital Age.” It
is a system for taking notes, keeping track of events and getting organized. I
won’t get into the basics of how Ryder suggests you go about doing that, but
you can find out more about it on his website.
What I liked about the BuJo is the ability to personalize it and make it your own. One thing I especially loved is the variety and endless possibilities of the collections. Collections are ways to organized related information. The basic collections in a BuJo are The Index, Future Log, Monthly Log, and the Daily Log. Ryder explains these in detail on his website. What I enjoyed creating was collections about anything and everything that was helpful to me. I made collections called: Books to Read, Weight Tracker, TV/ Movies & Streaming, Medical Appointment Log, Holiday Gift List/Ideas, etc. It could really be anything you wanted.
There were also ways to incorporate habit trackers into your
BuJo, which really keep you accountable for making better choices. You could
perhaps create a collection for habit tracking or you could add it to a regular
logging page. I kept the basic core collections of the BuJo, but instead of
doing a daily log, I kept a weekly log and had space for each day. I made
creative spreads using a ruler, nice colorful pens, stickers, stencils, colored
pencils and washi tape. It became a creative form of expression for me as well
as a way to keep organized. It really became addicting and I found myself
writing in it more and more. As time went on and the busier I became at work, I
found that I didn’t have all the time I wanted to devote to my BuJo and would
have to spend evenings and weekends working on my spreads. This is something I
wasn’t willing to do long-term.
BuJo Supplies when I first started out
Supplies I bought: Ruler The Official Bullet Journal Notebook Washi Tape (really just fancy paper tape used for decoration. I have tons) Colored pens (I found that the kind by Micron are my favorite) Stickers (Lots and lots of stickers) Stencils (For drawing shapes when you can’t really draw) Colored pencils Pretty Post-it notes Dual Brush pens (Hardly ever used these, sadly) Probably even more things that I am forgetting
When creating a BuJo, all you need is a notebook and a pen to start. But, I went all out and bought the items mentioned above. At the time, I thought I really needed EVERYTHING! Now, it’s just sitting in a bag somewhere in my house…
Collection called: TV, Movies and StreamingWeekly/Daily Log exampleMonthly Log Example
One thing about Bullet Journaling that most newbies don’t think about is the community of BuJo enthusiasts that are out there. Between Facebook groups and blogs, you can get so many suggestions, ideas, inspiration and help with Bullet Journaling. I joined a group on Facebook called Bullet Journal Beginners and it was very helpful. There is also a really popular one called Bullet Journal Junkies. Many others make blogs and send out monthly emails about Bullet Journaling including Ryder himself. It is all very helpful and informative.
I was very happy with it for a long time, but I liked to do
it very artistically and creatively, which got too time-consuming. It got to be
too much and I later stopped my BuJo. Then I became very disorganized and was
back to square one. I thought, there has to be a better way. I considered
someone pre-making my BuJo and then filling it in. But, I didn’t want to pay
anyone and it didn’t seem logical. The creator of the Bullet Journal wanted
everything to be simple. He created it so that it could be kept up with consistently
without much effort. Then, people who adopted his planner/journal method came
up with all these other more creative collections and ways to decorate the
pages. It strews from the origin of the Bullet Journal itself. Like I mentioned
before, I prefer the more artistic method to making a BuJo, but I couldn’t keep
up with it. So, I began researching again.
Passion Planner
That’s when I found the Passion Planner. Now, I considered other options before purchasing a Passion Planner, such as the Scribbles that Matter Bullet Planner, an Erin Condren LifePlanner, the Happy Planner or a Commit30. But, I think what really hooked me was that they were having a flash sale and I just happened to be on the website at the right time. I spent a fraction of what a Passion Planner costs and tried something new. I was so excited for my Passion Planner to come in the mail. It was already April when I got my Passion Planner, so I started from the beginning of that month and left the beginning of my journal blank (which started in January).
My Passion Planners
Let’s take a moment to talk about the company itself and its founder, Angelia Trinidad.
According to Passionplanner.com, “We’ve all been there: uncertain about what to do in life and unsure about the next step. When Angelia Trinidad faced this anxiety after graduating from college in 2012, she decided to do something about it. She designed the Passion Planner, a personal organizer to help you simplify your life and focus on what really matters.
Since then, Passion Planner has grown into a worldwide
community of dreamers, planners, and achievers. We’re dedicated to helping
everyone follow their passions. As a Get One, Give One company, every planner
purchased lets us give one to someone in need. We partner with nonprofit
organizations to support causes from education to preserving our planet.”
Weekly Spread Example
There are different components of a Passion Planner. Everything is laid out on the page for you so all you have to do is fill in. There are also blank pages in the back to use for whatever you like. It’s more than a planner; it’s also a goal setting guide, appointment calendar, sketchbook, gratitude log, journal, and a sketchbook. It has personal and work to-do list outlines and weekly and daily focus. You may use it however you wish and be as creative or as minimalist as you like.
When I first started my passion planner, I was working full-time. I used my planner to plan personal and work projects and set goals. I also make to-do lists and frequently used my “space of infinite possibility” found on each weekly spread and other areas throughout the planner. I used to decorate my Passion Planner with stickers I bought from my BuJo days. You can be creative and add stickers and “flair” but you can also be simple and just fill out the pages. Now that I’m a Stay-at-home-mom, I use my Passion Planner much differently. It helps me keep up with my schedule. I’m in a MOMS Club, so we have different events throughout the week as well as my other appointments and plans going on. I also use it to keep track of my chores around the house, my to-do list and occasionally my shopping list. There is a “Good things that Happened this week” space in each weekly spread and I use that to record my son’s milestones. It is really helpful to do this each week so I can write it in my son’s baby book each month. I’m sure I will love looking back on this part of my planner in the future.
At the beginning of each Passion Planner, there is a Passion Roadmap for goal setting. You list goals and due dates for completion in 3 months, One Year, 3 years and for your lifetime. It is really helpful to keep you on track. Each month there is also a space for a mind map of tasks to do that month. I did the one at the beginning of the book last year, but not this year. It is something I keep meaning to do. There is also an end of the month reflection for each month of the year in the Passion Planner. I’ve never filled out the end of the month reflection, but I would imagine it would be helpful.
How Passion Planner WorksA Blank Passion Roadmap
There are blank pages in the back of the planner that you can make into anything you want. I went back to my BuJo days and made a collection type page for Holiday Gifts to buy last holiday season. It really helped that my gift ideas were all in one place.
A lot of people use the Passion Planner and it is very beneficial. They have an academic version and an undated as well that come in a variety of sizes and colors. You can check out their website for their latest planners.
That pretty much sums up how I have and currently use productivity tools in everyday life to keep organized. I hope it has helped you learn more about a few different products that will help you stay on task and be productive. What types of things do you use to manage your time and achieve your goals?