September: A Month of Milestones

Ah, September. It’s my favorite month! A lot is happening for me during the month of September. First of all, it’s my birthday month. I was born on the 17th and sometimes my birthday falls on the Jewish holiday of Rosh Hashanah, but usually not. As a child, I always looked forward to September to celebrate my birthday. I would look forward to it months in advance. So far in advance that my parents would tell me that I’m not allowed to talk about my birthday until a few months before it! I started school young, so I’m always the youngest in my grade. Everybody reached their milestones before I did. But, to my advantage, I am the last of my friends to reach the Big 3-0 birthday! I’m looking forward to my birthday, but not so much the turning 30 part. If being the youngest wasn’t enough, I also look really young for my age. I still get carded for rated R movies, and always at the liquor store. Once, in college, an airport security worker asked if I was in middle school when I was with my mom. Crazy. I’m not THAT young looking!

Secondly, September is the month I got engaged. People who know my husband and I know that I waited a LONG time for that proposal! 7 years to be exact. My husband (then boyfriend) and I moved in together in the summer of 2011. We had been dating since junior year of college and were twenty when we met and first got together. Then, after graduation, my husband did the prosthetics program at Northwestern University in Chicago and had to go on site for 3 months in addition to a 6 month prior online program. He moved back home after he graduated from the program and began his residency. He went on to take boards and become certified and licensed in prosthetics. I lived with roommates for a while and then eventually we moved in together.

I knew the engagement was coming, but I didn’t know he was proposing that day. He picked up my ring on September 11, 2012 but decided 9/11 was not a good day to propose. So, he proposed on September 12 in our apartment after I had gotten home from work. I was so happy and my ring was gorgeous! We started planning our wedding, and set the date a couple weeks later. I set the date around my Rabbi’s schedule. We probably would have gotten married in the beginning of October if Rabbi had been available then. He wasn’t, so we decided on September 29, 2013. When we chose our venue, we made sure they had that date available and booked it during the tour. We had already been to the venue before at a friend’s wedding and knew it was going to be perfect. We got married at Villa Christina in Perimeter area in Atlanta, Georgia. I highly recommend that venue. Everything was perfect and I loved our event coordinator, Julie!

Wedding planning was so much fun! Read more about my wedding plans here and here. Read my advice for newlyweds here. We went on the perfect honeymoon to Kauai, Hawaii and it was amazing.

For our first anniversary, my husband and I went on a road trip from San Francisco to Vancouver, Canada and back. It was very rushed, as we did it all in 6 days. But, we still had a great time and saw very cool sights. We wine tasted in Napa, Drove through a redwood tree in the redwood forest, went to a rose garden and Powell’s City of Books in Portland, went to Pike Place Market and Olympic Sculpture Park in Seattle, and spent time in Stanley Park in Vancouver. You can read about our first anniversary trip here.

On the day of our first anniversary, we went to dinner at a nice seafood restaurant called Chequers. The next day, we picked up our anniversary wedding top of the cake from our cake lady Eileen Carter. She tells the brides and grooms to go ahead and eat the top of their cake after the honeymoon and then makes a replica of the top of the cake for all her client’s first anniversaries! It’s such a nice thing to do. The cake usually doesn’t taste so good after being in a freezer for a year, so that’s why she does this.

This year, we are not going on a lavish anniversary vacation. We had a nice vacation in the spring where we spent a week in Las Vegas. So, this year, we decided to take the day off work and spend time together doing something fun in Atlanta. We decided to go to Fernbank, an interactive science museum. I used to go there on field trips in elementary school, but I think it will be nice to go back as an adult. We plan on going to see one of the IMAX movies there and enjoy the exhibits. Then, for dinner, we will dine at Villa Christina’s restaurant. We have never gone there for dinner before and can’t wait! From what we tasted at our wedding tasting and the food they made for our wedding, it will be a gourmet treat!

My husband and I have been keeping up with the tradition of giving the customary anniversary gifts to each other in addition to something each of us had wanted. The first anniversary gift is paper and the second anniversary gift is cotton. We use Amazon.com with lists so that we know we are getting each other what we want. It works out really well for us.

There’s a lot to look forward to this month. I will be having several birthday celebrations with friends, family and my husband. My mom is coming in town for my big birthday and I’m really excited to see her!

Here’s to many more years of birthdays and anniversaries in September!

Dirty 30

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This is the year all my friends and I turn 30. Since I was born in the fall, I will be one of the last ones to celebrate this dreaded birthday. When you were younger, you always thought when you’re 30, you’ll have your life together. For a lot of people, this is not the case. But hey, it’s never too late to get your shit straightened out.

By the time most people are 30 they have careers and not jobs. I wouldn’t say my current full-time job is a career, but I do enjoy editing the staff newsletter. It’s been great to write articles, edit, lead and manage a team. It’s nice to have the final say in what is published. I’ve been doing that for five years and working at the university for almost six now. I always said it was a temporary job, but its’ not so temporary after six years.

During that time, I have had the privilege to be a freelance writer/journalist at two different publications. First, at Patch.com, a community based news website. Recently, I have been given a fantastic opportunity to write for the Atlanta Jewish Times. I was even assigned a cover story for my third assignment! You can read my work here and here, and the cover story about Jewish youth conventions hosted in Atlanta here.

Another thing most people hope to do by the time they turn 30 — get married. I got engaged when I was just about 27 and married just after I turned 28. When I was younger, I thought I’d be married at 25. We all think we will accomplish life’s milestones at a younger age than we actually do. But, life happens. Since I had been in a steady relationship since college, I always knew I would eventually get married and it would happen before I turned 30. Some single people get anxious about the fact that they are 30+ without a significant other. But, it’s better to be single than in a bad relationship. And sometimes it’s best to be single and work on you for a change. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else. For those who want to find love, it can be hard to meet someone. Most people I know met their husband/wife in college. But for those who didn’t, there’s always online dating. It’s getting much more common to date and meet people on online dating sites nowadays. I know many couples who have met that way and have gotten married. After all, they do match you up with people you are compatible with.

And of course, after marriage comes babies. People expect you to have children once you have been married for a while. And some ask you constantly and a lot sooner after you’re married than you think they would.  I do want to have kids one day, maybe in a few years, but I’m tired of people asking me that all the time. I can’t even say “guess what” anymore without someone saying, “Oh my God are you pregnant?”

When you’re married you have two groups of friends, those with kids and those without. And sometimes the two groups all get together, but a lot of times you only hangout with your non-parent friends. It’s harder for the parents to go out and make plans as they need to find a babysitter or they just don’t go out as often. I would imagine that families with kids usually hang out with other families who have kids more often than with couples who aren’t parents. That’s just how it works. But, someday I’ll be in the mommy club. I just want to enjoy being married for a while before I have kids.

When most people turn 30, they just feel old. You’re no longer a 20 something. Now you really feel like an adult. The older we get we have more responsibilities. You can’t count on handouts from mom and dad anymore (well most of the time). At least I am usually told, “You’re married now, I’m not paying for that anymore.” I guess being married really classifies you as an adult to most parents of 20/30 somethings.

My husband just turned 30 last week. It’s a big milestone to celebrate. We actually celebrated about four times with dinners, family and friends. I will turn 30 in September, and I’m not too thrilled. Some people look forward to turning 30. Most people I know dread it. However you look at it, at least you’re still here and at least you’ve matured. Well, most people can say that!

Here’s to turning 30!

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